Every weekday morning I spend 40 minutes driving my kids to their school in the neighboring city. It’s usually the best 40 minutes of my day. Although there are some quiet drives when we are all still a little tired, most of the time the three of us are joking, telling stories and singing to the music. I’m sure other drivers must look at us like crazy fools sometimes when we are all “breaking it down” over a great song in the car.
Last Tuesday was no different. It was my 12 year old daughters turn to sit up front. All was normal until there was a pause in the music. It was then my daughter turned to me and said, “Dad, what’s a hooker?” Wow! You can’t see that one coming!
I took a deep breath and jumped into a straight forward explanation of what a “hooker” was. My 13 year old son was laughing in the back seat…I guess he knows more than I thought. My daughter listened with great interest and thanked me for my answer. She said she always wondered what it meant because kids say it a lot at school.
Now it’s my turn to ponder. I’m sitting there thinking, “Why in the world are 6th graders talking about hookers?” Finally, I decided to ask the question I should have asked before enlightening her on the life of a hooker. I asked her EXACTLY how kids were using the word. She said they talk about it in terms of skipping school. My son laughingly chimed in, “You mean HOOKY…playing hooky!” She says, “Yea, that’s what they say!”
I just wanted to pull the car over and cry. I was one question away from making a complex, uncomfortable answer into an easy one. How about you? Take your listening to a higher level and before you open your mouth to vomit your wisdom on someone make sure you know the real question! I know I will…next time!